Do girlfriends really know best?
By
John Joe Kinsella
While
sitting in front of a blank screen and drawing more blanks as to coming up with
fun ideas for keeping the pleasure going in a relationship, my phone rang. It
was my girlfriend calling to say goodnight. When I told her what I was doing
she had no hesitation in offering her tuppence to the pot. She began a litany
of ; be patient, be tolerant, be a good listener and give her all the time that
she wants to speak, be always ready for activities that she likes, never forget
the boundaries, be more child-like instead of too serious, have a good sense of
humour and always be ready to accept the things that you cannot change. I can
only hazard a guess as to what she meant by that last one.
I
tell you, my wrist was sore trying to scribble it all down as she blurted it
out. I guess that different people have different ideas as to what constitutes
fun and pleasure. Here I was thinking along the lines of understanding each
other, maybe sharing the same hobbies and social scene, watching the same
movies and generally just enjoying being in each other’s company. My problem at
the start was that I was thinking too broadly. I was trying to encompass other
relationships such as family and friend relationships and maybe even the
relationship with your pet dog or whatever. However; my darling was not long
narrowing my focus to the relationship that mattered most to her.
In
all seriousness I think that you have to understand what brings pleasure, not
only to you but to the others involved in the relationship, whether it is a
group of friends, family or a romantic relationship with that someone special.
If the pleasure in the relationship is not mutual then it can hardly be much
fun for the others involved. Tolerable might be a better description. I believe
that life is for living, relationships are a fundamental part of life and fun
is a fundamental part of living. Life without fun sounds very boring.
I
know that my girlfriend was only joking but just in case she was not I think I
should consider getting a pet.
Flash fiction
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